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Friday, April 15, 2011

gossip, kokonsa, chisme ...

... Gossip is an evil thing, much unhappiness it brings. If you can't say something nice, don't talk at all is my advice ... (Not sure who the original author is)

I learned the words of this chorus back in Junior high and I still remember it to this day. It really changed my outlook on a lot of so called "discussions". One of my friend's status on facebook the other day was "if you stay long enough to hear negative and malicious things about someone, what makes you think the same won't be going on behind you?

I don't want to focus on the malicious aspect of gossip alone. I realize that by making the previous statement it implies that some aspect of gossip is good. Is that true at all? Does it mean then that if what is being said is "nice", then it is alright? Hmmm, just wondering.

7 comments:

Myne Whitman said...

often it is the malicious and negative banter that is labelled gossip. But generally, I'll rather not discuss people.

ABIGAIL NY said...

Are you Ghannaian? Just saw the word kokonsa and felt to ask. Yeah gossip is an evil thing, although I think people aren't fully aware of the meaning ... I was tought that gossiping is making lies about a person and negatively speaking about them, so what happens when you talking and it's facts you saying? Cause when girls talk guys always say it's gossiping when you could be talking about clothes.

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Maxine said...

@myne-better safe than sorry right?

@Abigail- yeah I'm 100% Ghanaian:-)i guess probably 'cos girls talk a whole lot more and the more we talk too much, the more the facts chnage

Think-About-It said...

For the 1st time in my life, I paused, sometime last year, to think about gossiping and if I do it too. It was hard to tell. Quite a fine line. So I decided that if I find myself discussing someone in a way I wouldn't do if he/she were present (good or bad), I ought to quit. Haven't had the chance to test this yet though.
I had this impression that guys don't gossip but i had to check myself when a woman referred to one of my guy friends as a gossip. That kinda hurt.

simplychic said...

we are all guilty of gossip to an extent, b/c we're human. but i do pride myself on not being much of a gossiper. and i find that b/c ppl know i don't run my mouth, ppl LOVE to run their mouths to me. lol. i normally just nod and smile. it's better that they are talking to me and not someone who is going to run and tell everyone else.

Maxine said...

@Think-about-it- Let me know how it goes when u put it to the test :)... and guys always claim it is just a discussion. I guess they are often less malicious and mean spirited about it than girls are.

Maxine said...

@simplychic- Girl, I get the same too. It gets especially difficult for me when they are spewing out facts I know are true. Sometimes it is difficult to bite my tongue. Gotta keep working on that :(