Keep it hot!

Just a few days ago, a friend of mine was lamenting about keeping it hot between her and her man and balancing all that with work and kids. It was more like a complaint about monotony of being in a monogamous relationship. It kind of made me sad for a minute but I guess to a certain extent it can be a little tedious for luck of trying to keep the romance alive. She said "We dated for five years and have been married the rest". I have my personal opinions but I wonder what other people think? What has kept people going? What are some of the resources out there? Over the past few months, these websites( love actually and the intimate couple ) have been great resources for me.

Sometimes, some of the suggestions from these helpful tools may seem pretty trivial and even silly but I figure with the amount of effort I put in at work, if I try to put that much into my marriage, I can't go wrong at all :) I hope everyone is having a great week! Blessings!

Fellow Traveller

This is to my Fellow traveller on this journey called life. He pushed me to think of the possibilities that lay ahead of me if only I will let go of my fears. It is also dedicated to those who have lost the love they once knew. Here is my encouragement to you to find that passion again!

He said, she said, they said, we agreed
We talked about old tasks and deeds
Three nods, three hands, and eyes connect
We make a pact to stay in touch


He said, she said, they said all forgotten
All hopes and dreams appear abandoned
One thought, one touch and all's remembered

We come together, a pact to fulfil


He said, she said, they said again
This journey is long but begin we must
Your burden is mine and mine is yours
We take this step, our pact renewed

Copyright ©2009 Maxine Mosley Totoe

Gestures

I once met this lady and her daughter
She smiled a lot ''coz she was a toddler
Naught in this world could make her smile falter
Actually, waving at her made the smile brighter

That simple gesture eventually gave me so much pleasure
And for ages to come it''s something I will always treasure
Not because I was deeply touched, by the way it caused much laughter
Not because it was from a stranger, but because there was no measure

I once let out a sigh of relief from so much pent up feelings
It was so overwhelming it made me cry without seeing
Then a dear lady came along and showed me love unending
She did not have to do a task so straining

All she said was, "you're having a bad day sweetie"
And offered the best solution ever
She just smiled at me and said simply
"For you I'll say a prayer"

I had a peaceful feeling all day, for I knew I was being prayed for
This gesture overwhelmed me, for the dear lady was not of my race or color
But she broke all racial barriers with a simple word like prayer
Maxine Mosley
Copyright ©2009 Maxine Mosley

Obsessed...

Love, Lust and everything in between...

Natasha Beddingfield's song "Angel" has these lyrics
"Tell me why there's so many good
Men in the world misunderstood
He's a dog, he's no good...
I wish somebody would
Disrespect my man
You're gonna have to come see me
I go hard for my baby
He's all that I need

So if you got a good one
Put your hands up,
Come on girl and stand up
Go ahead lift your man up"

You can listen to it in the playlist to the left if you so please.
It's the one labeled "Angel".
hmmm...I thought that was really interesting. Here is a woman who is fighting for her man! That doesn't happen quite often does it? We(or at least I) hear it the other way round. I often hear it said too that if someone or something belongs to you, let go of them and if they comes back to you, that means it was meant to be. The thing is I have always had a problem with this axiom though.

I don't usually like thrillers but I really wanted to see the movie "OBSESSED" with Ali Larter,Beyonce Knowles,Idris Elba.Now I know this is not an Academy Award winning story line or acting so pardon me if you think it is a ridiculous movie. That is not my point. You can take a look at the trailer... it seems a little too predictable I guess.

Movie Trailers - Movies Blog

I am still deciding if I want to see this movie. If and when I do, I will let you know but if you have seen it and you really think it is not worth my money or my time, let me know too! Awuramma, when are we going to see it?

There I go getting sidetracked as usual. Sometimes, I get tired of the man-bashing and man-hating. I believe no one can treat you unfairly without your permission so in other words, you will only be treated the way you want to be treated if you allow people to treat you that way. Why do some folk make it their hobby to bring discord in other people's relationship? Why do we allow ourselves to fall into the trap of so called "innocent flirtation and playful attraction" even when we are in relationships. I get very agitated when people claim "it just happened". Before any decision is made concerning human emotions, don't we usually give it a careful thought even if it is fleeting?

Sometimes, I guess we pretend that engaging in such frivolous encounters is really harmless and could never hurt anyone. But I guess after you have been in a relationship for a while and without the true understanding of what it means to love, the rush of a new possibility always brings a thrill. How deep is your commitment? So really, what is innocent flirtation? How far do you take it without hurting other people? Remember, it is quite easy to fall in love with people. There are so many beautiful people in this world. To LOVE, however, changes it all up! The commitment that comes with loving that one person needs some careful consideration...

I'm still thinking...