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Thursday, July 30, 2009


Refusing to be disillusioned is the cause of much of the suffering of human life.
... And this is how that suffering happens;
When we love someone we demand total perfection and righteousness from them,
and when this does not happen, we become cruel and vindictive;
Yet we are demanding of a human being something he/she can not possibly give...
If our trust is placed in human beings, we will end up despairing of everyone!
I say there is only one Being who can completely satisfy to the absolute depth
of the hurting human heart!
(paraphrasing Oswald Chambers~)
Ask yourslef, are you disillusioned? It means having no misconceptions, false impressions,
False judgements in life; it means being free from these deceptions!
Lofty thought are good... as long as you acknowledge that they are not necessarily the ideal.
Becoming stripped of your illusions can be an absolutely painful experience;
Growing up and maturing, not so fun but it has its perks :)

Tuesday, July 28, 2009


You meet and through some commonality you become friends
Then you meet at a different time and she/he kind of ignores you
You say hi and they respond with a quick and courteous hello
Then another time they relate to you an experience in their life
And everything feels like the first time you met

"There's two sides to this person", you think
There's days when they are present in their body
There's days when they do not remember you
But that's cool 'cos when they remember, you're still there
And you'll always be that sister, 'cos you really can't choose your family

Backgrounds seem similar
So why can't you relate?
Money ain't a thing and no situation is permanent, my friend
Just remember that no matter what, we both want to please Him
And he only looks at the heart, not what's on the outside

So yeah, you try to put it out of your mind
Maybe you're just being paranoid
Is that smile genuine or not?
Didn't mean to steal your shine, friend
And remember, you're a star all your own...

Monday, July 27, 2009

Keep Your Feet Off The Seat!

Before I said I do, I wasn't big into movies but the SO is like a movie-holic and it is interesting to see the intensity with which he watches this fictitious stories. Sometimes he says he was born in the wrong era; he secretly wishes he had been born in the days of King Arthur! But, brother-man is mocha choco-latte and probably would have ended up as a stable boy or some other lower class job instead of the knight he wishes he could be! lol... Chivalry, is not quite dead yet people!

I usually try my very best to be quiet and not disturb much at the movies. Some people, however, know nothing about movie etiquette. Sometimes, if something really upsets me at the movies, I might sigh a little too loudly or grab Tomeister's arm so tightly that the circulation might be cut off. Some people seem to have appointed themselves as commentators and live movie critics while the show is going on. What gives these people the right to point out what is going on in every scene when I can see it for myself? Really!?!!!!

What is the point in talking to the characters when they can not here you? "Don't go down there", she screams. "I told you not to go down there", "Now you gon' get it". People, please refrain from this. It is absolutely irritating! Not cool!

Anyways, that's just a little rant 'cos this was getting under my skin just a tad bit. I hope everyone is having a fabulous Monday! New week, new beginnings! Good Luck and God Bless!

Saturday, July 25, 2009


Ha! Not so easy after all. Thanks for tagging me YNC! your original did not have a number 8 though :) If you are reading, consider yourself tagged!

Rules: It's harder than it looks! Copy to your own note, erase my answers, enter yours, and tag 10 people. Use the first letter of your name to answer each of the following questions. They have to be real . . . nothing made up! If the person before you had the same first initial, you must use different answers. You cannot use any word twice and you can't use your name for the boy/girl name question.

My Letter is "M"!

1. What is your name: Maxine
2. A four Letter Word: (a clean one?): Milk
3. A boy's Name: Maxwell
4. A girl's Name: Marilyn
5. An occupation: Mechanical Engineer
6. A color: Mauve
7. Something you wear: Mascara
8. Any website: ( ha ha...could not help it)
9. A food: Meat Pie
10. Something found in the bathroom: Moisturizer
11. A place: Miami
12. A reason for being late: Missed bus
13. Something you shout: Move!
14. A movie title: Mannequin
15. Something you drink: Malta Guinness (I’m West African!)
16. A musical group: Manatee
17. An animal: Moose
18. A street name: Marshwood Drive
19. A type of car: Mazda
20. The title of a song: Mighty To Save by Hillsong United

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Fellow Traveller

This is to my Fellow traveller on this journey called life. He pushed me to think of the possibilities that lay ahead of me if only I will let go of my fears. It is also dedicated to those who have lost the love they once knew. Here is my encouragement to you to find that passion again!

He said, she said, they said, we agreed
We talked about old tasks and deeds
Three nods, three hands, and eyes connect
We make a pact to stay in touch

He said, she said, they said all forgotten
All hopes and dreams appear abandoned
One thought, one touch and all's remembered
We come together, a pact to fulfil

He said, she said, they said again
This journey is long but begin we must
Your burden is mine and mine is yours
We take this step, our pact renewed

Copyright ©2009 Maxine Mosley Totoe

Sunday, July 19, 2009

One Life Stand!

Here comes the Bride, there goes her friends! (I've been trying to get down to the heart of the matter, But everything changes and my friends seem to scatter,But I think it's about forgiveness,Forgiveness. Even if, even if you don't love me anymore... Written by Mike Campbell, Don Henley and J. D. Souther)
I was reading someones blog the other day (sorry I forgot who) and she was lamenting over the thought that her married friends do not hang out anymore after the nuptials. This was not taken lightly on her part. I felt quite sad for her and could almost feel the pain and passion with which she was writing. It was almost as if she had lost her best friend or several other friends to the "marital status". Her thought was you will need your friends when so and so messes up and you have no one to talk to. "Aha!" I thought, why are you setting her up to fail even before she starts her journey?

I know this has crossed the mind of many single people with married friends but my question is " has anyone thought about the fact that these two people are assuming new roles and need time to adjust to them before making demands of them?" When people get married they shed the boyfriend/girlfriend, fiance/fiancee persona for a new one (husband/wife) which requires a lot of getting used to. After all, you have been single all your life and have had a lot of practice at being your single self.

I was telling my dad that the reason I don't think the hubby and I need to have kids at least for a year and a half to two years after getting married is because we need to get to know each other in these new roles as well as adjust to it individually before subjecting anyone else to it. I know in most African communities, it is expected that 9 months after getting married, the baby will arrive! Yikes! That's the route my sister went and I suppose it is a matter of personal preference but I honestly would have been a little overwhelmed. Thank God I have a family that does not pressure me about having children!... my two year period is almost up though...:)

So if you're reading this and you have some married friends, please take a chill pill. I have plenty in my medicine cabinet. Give your married friends a break. They need a little time to just be Mr. and Mrs. I pointed out to a fellow blogger that the Bible does say (in 1 Corinthians 7:28) that "But those who marry will face many troubles in this life,... so please in addition to all their worldly troubles, don't add yours as a friend. Go on your knees and say a prayer for them from time to time and during the ceremony, do take your vow as a friend seriously! Someday, they will need you for sure and whether they have been in touch constantly or not, you took a vow, to be there for them as a friend so be there! They are in a new profession and they are learning on the job. That's my excuse as a married woman :)

Friday, July 17, 2009


I once met this lady and her daughter
She smiled a lot ''coz she was a toddler
Naught in this world could make her smile falter
Actually, waving at her made the smile brighter

That simple gesture eventually gave me so much pleasure
And for ages to come it''s something I will always treasure
Not because I was deeply touched, by the way it caused much laughter
Not because it was from a stranger, but because there was no measure

I once let out a sigh of relief from so much pent up feelings
It was so overwhelming it made me cry without seeing
Then a dear lady came along and showed me love unending
She did not have to do a task so straining

All she said was, "you're having a bad day sweetie"
And offered the best solution ever
She just smiled at me and said simply
"For you I'll say a prayer"

I had a peaceful feeling all day, for I knew I was being prayed for
This gesture overwhelmed me, for the dear lady was not of my race or color
But she broke all racial barriers with a simple word like prayer
Maxine Mosley
Copyright ©2009 Maxine Mosley

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

Far and Near Yet Right Here...

A fellow blogger wants me to write more. That put a smile on my face because often times I have started to blog and just decided to write in my journal instead. I have several blog entries that are unpublished because I thought the content was a bit too personal. I know several of my friends and some of my family read this even though they don't ever want to leave comments! Ha... I know who you are because you always ask me about my entries!Go figure!

Anyways, I was thinking about the many friends I have lost and gained along this narrow highway of life. Sometimes we do not mean to lose touch or ignore the friendship but distance makes it difficult to keep it going. Other times we develop new interests and the old ones are left abandoned. Here is to you, my friend, the one I have neglected to nurture.

Life has a way of passing us by.
And we have a way of forgetting to say "hi."
Not realizing that so much time has passed.
Not knowing when we talked last.
Its been awhile since we've seen each other.
or even talked to one another.

I realize I miss you very much.
and I want to get back in touch.
I hope we don't lose touch again.
For you are a special person, my friend.
I hope that life has been good to you.
And that you've found peace and happiness in all you

I hope you're really doing great things
In your little corner of the world
It's been a while.
God bless and do keep in touch.

Copyright ©2009 Maxine Mosley Totoe

Monday, July 13, 2009


Sometimes hope is fleeting,
Or is it always...

There are days when I am happy as a clown and there are days when I am not so happy. Actually, just downright depressed! It doesn't happen often though because I believe your reaction to any situation is in your hands. You can choose to be happy or not.

A couple of days ago, a friend of mine asked me "what do you do when your faith is shaken by something you don't have an answer to? That got me thinking for a long minute and then I responded "you keep trusting because He does not owe you anything yet he still takes care of you". Now you can call my religious bluff or whatever but I actually do believe that. It makes me think about how big the world is and how I must seem like a speck of dust yet my Bible tells me that "He knows the number of hairs on my head". That even "before I was formed, He knew me". Very lofty thoughts for me indeed.

One of my favorite books in the Bible is Job! Yes, Job! here is the link if you want to read it. I know many people who just find that book really boring and a tedious task to read. I just decided one day to read the whole book of Job and I was just blown away! I haven't seen a character so steadfast who has come against so many obstacles in his life! And in all of it his response is " Shall we accept good from God and not trouble?" Who in their right mind when they are going through a hardship stops to think about the good times? Seriously! Often times we just wallow in that depression and sink deeper into the abyss of hopelessness with no view of a brighter day.

It is not always great to be down in the funks you know. I just have to keep reminding myself that when I look by sight, I see the problems just overwhelming and overtaking me but when I look by faith, I see the One who created me and knew me from the beginning, standing by my side. At times I may not feel His presence because all I can concentrate on is the world but it does not eliminate the fact that He is there with me.