Resolute resolutions

New year's eve always gets me really excited. I don't know what it is about the last day of the year that just puts me in a good mood. Usually, I would get very sad and broody or super excited depending on whether it has been a good year or not. NYE 2008 was not that much different except it I was not in Ghana with my whole family, I did not get the usual hug ad kisses from my folks. We didn't pray accross the year or sing and dance around for the first couple of minutes of the year. I missed my family but I was very happy and content with my hubby.

We finally got around to watching our wedding video which amidst complaints of the cameraman's inexperience, still made us reminicse about how much we enjoyed our wedding day... and then got to doing what married people do!!! We did not really talk about any new years resolutions. I am just so thankful to be alive and to still be in love that I just want to be in the moment. Which brings me to the reason why I wanted to write this entry. I have never really followed any resolutions I've ever made so I stopped making them. What really is the point if no change will made? I guess to an extent, it does provide you with some kind of goal to achieve or does it?

So another new year is here. This time just like last year, I don't have any lengthy list of resolutions.
I am going to be better at being myself,
I am going to form genuine friendships,
I am going to worry less if I can help it,...

The rest is x-rated and intended for my journal. I should probably add pretend to be trying to have a baby. Now that just got a chuckle out of me. I feel like I am so not ready yet. Anyways, each day at a time right. I need to remember to just live in the here and now.
AFEHYIA PA OOO!!!(HAPPY NEW YEAR)

1st Anniversary! Thank God!

So it has been a year since our church wedding on December 29, 2007! I am so thankful to God for seeing us through. It has really been amazing and I have loved all of it. It has been so wonderful to watch my husband grow in his faith and become this awesome and thoughtful person. I couldn't ask for more. Hopefully, the next year will be even better than we are hoping for.

We had a pretty great Christmas holidays! The Boahenes' wedding was awesome. It was fun to see how happy most people were. There was no major glitch and the couple looked really happy which made everyone enjoy it. It kind of made me miss our wedding. So much fun!

This evening, we are planning on doing dinner, then coming home to watch our wedding video 'cos we haven't seen it since the wedding. We are planning on an amazing vacation sometime during the year and I am really looking forward to that too.

Another year, More grace!

So I turned twenty six today! That's a pretty huge milestone to me! I am no longer good old 25. 25 was a good age to be. I didn't feel too old telling people my age and some were always fairly surprised to hear that I was 25. Now, I don't know if I should feel different or not. I am not upset to have grown a year older...after all I had a whole year to prep for the number 26.

I remember teasing my husband about turning 27 and being in his late 20's...now I am so close and there's no turning back. I woke up this morning with feelings of gratitude and thankfulness. My hubby made me a delicious breakfast!Bless his heart!(I loove when he makes me breakfast.) Anywho, church was great with a continuation of the sermon on John Wesley. I skipped lunch 'cos I was still full from breakfast. Awesome, huh? B and I just watched a bit of TV as I sat waiting for Amma and Pearl to come over. Dinner was at the Bistro Bella Vita. Awesome place!

I never thought getting older could make me feel a little insecure but deep down, it kind of makes me wonder about what I am doing with my life and if it is worth while at all. This whole year has been a year of uncertainty and fear of the unknown. I am working on being that confident young woman I was when I was much younger. On some days, it is great and on others, I am not so sure. I wonder where it comes from though because I was always enouraged to be my best. Don't get me wrong, I can be very outgoing but being outgoing does not necessarily make one confident.

Thomas is really awesome when it comes to encouraging me. It makes me happy to know that the person I chose to spend the rest of my life with, is interested in my well being and wants me to be my very best! So anyways, I cut most of my perm off...I still have a few strand of relaxed hair that I just want gone! My stylist lock twisted it for me but it took much courage for me to rock it in public. I thought I was going to pass out but so far I haven't died and my husband still thinks I'm hot! That helps... but I wanna look my best for myself and for him so I'll eventually rock the 'Fro...but as at now, it aint for me... or is it? It may be true that I am not really my hair(India Arie) but a woman's hair sure is her glory!...

alls well... maybe not?...why not?

Uhm...so I am having a pretty good day. The thing with me is, I believe the less you complain about things and appreciate what you have, the better your outlook on life. Anytime people as me "how is married life?", my answer is mostly that it is awesome! It is great! I can't complain. Today, a friend asked me if there was nothing I would change. My question is, why do I have to change anything? Why can't I just be having an amazing time as it is? I think whenever I give a positive answer, some people get the impression that I am living in an unreal owrld, in a bubble or painting a happy picture.

Truth is, I am trully happy. We are not perfect beings but we are not trying to make each other perfect or be the perfect little couple. People need to get it out of their heads that marriage is this terrible thing that you should wait forever before getting into. As I always say, it is what you make it. It is custom made and there's no one recipe for the greatest marriage. No matter what, you do you and try your best for the other person and things will turn out great. We do have our ups and downs but the Ups outweigh the downs by a great percentage... and I am not going to complain about what my husband did the other day to people who don't understand the contest of whatever happened that day.

So go ahead, ask me again. So far, so great. I am LOVING IT! Sex life is awesome!, communication is good, spiritual life-we're working on it, family life- can't complain...God's been good!

long time...

So it's been a minute since I wrote on here!...Not very good huh? Anyways, I've been pretty good. Still going through each day and hoping to make the most of it. Seriously, I need to maybe clean more and cook more. I love cooking but I realized that the smell of meat kind of makes me sick. I've cut down on how much beef I eat and I'm eating a lot more fish(Tilapia). I still can not get Thomas to eat any mutton(goat meat)...He can not stand the smell or the taste of it.

So the woes of immigration stuff continues... I still have to wait for all that paper work to be done and it has been like what, 20 months already? Yeah. Anywayss, I told myself I would not complain because I am learning to be still and know that God is in control. It gets a little frustrating though because I am not used to being "still".

By the way, I've done a little better lately with the work outs. Pretty rewarding I guess. There is so much that I really want to write but I start writing and then I get tired of trying to remember all that I want to write. I need to get back to school and get back in the mood for writing. Maybe I should take a creative writing class to get that going.

So I have not sung in ages! Well not really Ages because I did sing on December 30,2007, the day after my wedding at church. I must say I was pretty nervous about singing at Benita's wedding but my hubby said it was great and I totally respect his opinion!

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fun times

So we had a pretty good 4th I think!. B and I usually go off to Chi-Town but this year, we did it our way. On Friday, we went to the John Ball Zoo and saw the Lions of Lake Manyara(sp?). It was pretty cool 'cos it was officially B's first time seeing live lions! Oh yeah!...and people think since he's African, he has them in his backyard!...we had quite a good laugh about that. Later on in the evening, we went to see the Fireworks downtown and even though it is always the same, it was fun to watch and hear people "ooohhh" and "aaahhh" over and over again! Afterwards, we went to get some Midori sour for me.

On Saturday we went to Grand Haven with Amma, Danielle and Asantewaa to enjoy the beach. It was really good times! I had fun in the water. I think this was my first time spending a longer time in the water than I usually do. I even got to play "pretend" volley ball in the water. B and I also played with the frisbee for a little while. I'll have to put some pretty sweet pictures up later!

On the low side, my little "sister" Alice, is leaving Calvin! Sucks...but that's an entry for another day.

GRACE!!!

"If I feel bitterly towards those who condemn me, as it seems to me, unjustly, forgetting that if they knew me as I know myself they would condemn me much more, then I know nothing of Calvary's love." I am not sure where I saw or read this quote but it is quite a comfort to me and anytime I feel ugly towards other people, I am quickly reminded of God's ever unfailing love and mercies towards me.

Thanks be to God, my sister finally found some sort of a job! I am so excited for her that I can not contain it. I was so worried that she would never be motivated to find one. Oh Thank you God! Anywho, I am pretty pumped for life!...haha...I always am I guess. Sometimes I am not really. Like sometime last weekend I got a little ugly and was really broody and quiet. I hate those darn times. I'm not sure if it was hormonal or just good ole Maxine! Oh well, I'm out of the stinker so its good. whohooo!!!

grrr

I'm learning that I have a short fuse. Well what can I say, my heart is too close to my head! I'm only 5"1 and some... It is something I need to keep working on. I easily get mad at things that don't make sense to me instead of looking at the bigger picture. I think this is a step in the right direction, or? At least I am acknowledging what my downfall is, right? I get a little too passionate about issues that matter to me and maybe I need a chill pill sometimes? aarrggghhh...I'm sure you think I'm some sort of a nutcase huh? Oh well, your opinion; you're entitled to it.

Hey I saw "Beaches" today!...lol...I loved it way back when I saw it as a kid and couldn't get "that's the story of, that's the glory of love" out of my head. Anywho, I didn't remember it being that much of a tear jerker but I guess it is in some ways. I mean who wants their bestfriend to die instead of growing old together?!

hmmm

So I spoke to my friend personally about what was bothering me. I was tired of the whole this person said this and I said that and all. Tired of having other people interfere when we can talk about stuff like civilized adults. Apparently we had all had a big misunderstanding over emails and online. I still am a little iffy 'cos I don't understand some stuff but its all good. God knows ma heart. I don't get how other people will budge in and say things they know nothing about. It really upsets me! It is why I try to keep ma distance and stay in good ole Grand Rapids because I don't want to be involved in drama! Like seriously! I consider myself a loyal friend and try to put my friends interest first but when I am made to feel like I compromised that, it really upsets me.

Anywho, its all good and life goes on. You might win some. I was going to make the effort to get to know some people but I need to reserve me energy and reanalyze. Whatever it is, its cool... it gets very difficult but I guess I need to keep trying if I am trying to be like Him.

In the words of Oswald Chambers "Stop having a measuring stick for other people. There is always at least one more fact, which we know nothing about, in every person’s situation. The first thing God does is to give us a thorough spiritual cleaning. After that, there is no possibility of pride remaining in us. I have never met a person I could despair of, or lose all hope for, after discerning what lies in me apart from the grace of God."...

...wise words!